Don’t judge yourself for having the thought or feeling, or feel like you’re less than whole for having the feeling. This process should lead you to the place where you ask yourself, “Does this feeling serve me? Would I rather hold on to this, or would I rather be free of it?”

What I’ve learned is that when I hold o to resentments or spend my energy trying to figure out my “next move,” it ends up hurting me more than anything.